My wife and I recently visited Italy, and hired a tour guide to drive us to a couple of UNESCO sites. The guide liked to talk. He was eager to tell us all about the “history” of the region, giving many “facts” about Italy, and also added some “scient
I can't describe the thrill of stepping out of an open door of an airplane and falling toward the ground. Once the parachute opens, the slow descent beneath the deployed canopy is relaxing, until the ground gets near. The last few seconds are fast an
At the age of 18, I attended the United States Army Airborne School at Fort Benning, GA. Our training was three weeks long. During Ground Week, we engaged in a challenging physical-fitness regimen, as well as intensive training for making parachute j
Stress impacts our ethics. If our ethical armor is brittle, like plastic, then it cracks under the right amount of stress. Our ethics should be resilient when challenged. We often don't know how strong our ethics are until we are tested — whic
Examines how stress affects people's lives from both an emotional as well as competitive perspective.
Recently, I committed a faux pas. I'll tell you the story, and let you decide if I committed an ethical violation.
It's affluenza season. Did you get your vaccination yet? Affluenza infects more people than you think. Statistics dramatically understate the epidemic. There was a devastating case in Texas that killed four people (http://www.forbes.com/sites/dalearc
The author discusses his experience as a senior Electrical Engineering undergraduate student at the USAF Academy taking his first course in electromagnetics.
After running with Gianluca Lazzi at the AP-S Symposium a few years ago, I told my wife about his great GPS wristwatch that he used to keep track of how far he ran. Last Christmas, my family decided to get me one of those watches. It not only tells m
I like to ride my bike, and if I can avoid driving a car, I do. After moving to Colorado almost six years ago, I found that I was getting a flat tire on my bike about once a month. I hate changing inner tubes, especially on the road. My solution: Kev
I guess you can call me a box collector. I save almost all of the boxes that we get from Amazon and put them in our basement. Whenever we send presents to grandchildren or other relatives, I pick out an appropriately sized box to contain the gifts. W
The FIFA World Cup begins today! I recently read an article that said six times more people will watch this event on TV than watch the Super Bowl in US Football. The team that wins will be rated number one in the most popular sport in the world (I ex
When I first started driving, getting from one place to another was completely different than it is today. I remember driving from Massachusetts with my wife to attend a friend's wedding in Pennsylvania in 1980. We used a map to get us from Massachus
What are you really worth? Most people think in terms of their salary, or how much money and how many possessions they have. It's very easy to quantify both of those and give an answer. For instance, the top paid athletes in the world are listed in T
I was listening to the news while driving home the other day when I heard a translation of the recording between Capt. Gregorio De Falco of the Italian Coast Guard in Livorno, Italy, and Capt. Schettino of the grounded cruise ship Costa Concordia. “V
The other day, an old friend (I had not seen in many years) and I leisurely rode 60 km on our bikes, while enjoying the beautiful scenery of Colorado. Along the way, we remi nisced and solved most of the world's problems. My friend mentioned that he
About 20 years ago, I was in the Netherlands running in a park. The park was a nice forest, with beautiful running trails. Wooden fences with chicken-wire fencing divided the park into sections. About every half-kilometer or so, the trail passed thro
Does Money Make You Happy? Even if you don't want to say so, it probably does. An interesting question then is how much does it take to make you happy? Graduate students shun money to find happiness through the pearls of wisdom offered by their advis
This paper discusses about omerta which is the code of silence developed within the professions. One definition of omerta is "the obligation never, under any circumstances, to apply for justice to the legal authorities and never to assist in any way
New ideas are often resisted, even when they turn out to be very good ideas.
Presents a first-person account of why one young woman bypassed engineering for business.
ApoPular philosophical/psychoanalytical question is, “Is the glass half full or half empty?” If you answer, “Halfempty,” then you are pigeon-holed as a pessimist. You think about subtraction: what could have been. You do not appreciate what you have.
Arguments over the cause of human behavior - genetic or environmental - are difficult to arbitrate. Our genes constrain who we are, but our environment influences how we act. It is difficult to tell whether genetics or environment is the root of any
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Confidence versus Arrogance
few years ago, I had an interesting verbal exchange with my oldest daughter. She made a condescending comment about someone (I don't remember what), to which I responded, "You are arrogant." She was genuinely insulted by my comment. In the following conversation/debate, she said to me "You are the one who is arrogant." I, like her, was insulted. Since that cherished family moment, I have been thinking/rationalizing about my arrogance, or, hopefully, lack thereof. I don't consider arrogance a trait to strive for, but am I guilty of it? It was time for some self-psychoanalysis by an engineer: observe, collect data, compare with theory, then fix it (or at least manipulate the data I obtained to prove that I am not arrogant). It's so easy that all psychologists should be engineers. Let's start out by looking at the meaning of the two words. Confidence has a positive connotation, while arrogance has a negative connotation. People who are confident are certain about their ability and have faith in themselves. It is a personal thing that does not make any inferences about other people. On the other hand, people who are arrogant feel superior and are overbearing and presumptuous. Arrogance demands respect from others, while confidence is quiet. Arrogant people are covering up their feelings of inadequacy. We call arrogant people snobs, overly proud, overbearing, condescending, and haughty. We may even say they have superbia and hubris, if we know what those words mean.
My favorite movie of all time is Chariots of Fire. It is a mostly true story based on two British athletes, Harold Abrahams and Eric Liddell ("The Flying Scotsman"), who ran events in the 1924 Olympics. It is also an excellent comparison of two people: one arrogant and one confident. Harold was very insecure and arrogant. He constantly had to prove himself and be the center of attention. He was never satisfied, and would do nearly anything to win and be the best. In their only competition, Liddell blew Abrahams away in the 200 m race. Eric had the quiet confidence that resulted in a much more humble appearance. Both became tremendous runners, and both won gold medals in 1924 (in different events). I had the honor of visiting the University of Edinburgh, where Liddell's gold medal is on display. His quiet confidence, coupled with his exceptional life is very inspiring to me. Some differences between arrogance and confidence include (http://www.communicationconfidence.com/confidence-vsarrogance.html): 174
Confident people know their strengths and weaknesses. An arrogant person usually doesn't acknowledge weakness, and concentrates on strengths.
Arrogant people need to compensate for areas of weakness. They often ignore weakness, so they can pretend that it does not exist. Confident people find the root of their confidence in self acceptance, and they recognize their weaknesses or faults, even though they may not like them. This acceptance allows the confident person to gracefully deal with faults.
An arrogant person brags, and dominates other people. A confident person acknowledges that other people will have strengths and weaknesses, too. Confident people don't need to make life a competition, so they tend to be more enjoyable to be around. They also have the confidence to build up other people. An arrog(\llt person is cocky and difficult to reason with.
Body language is different between arrogant and confident people. A confident person has an open and easy posture that is inviting to others. An arrogant person appears more aggressive and harder to approach.
I'll close with two quotes about confidence and arrogance from Mark Twain: "To succeed in life, you need two things: ignorance and confidence." "The offspring of riches: Pride, vanity, ostentation, arrogance, tyranny."
Yes, I am still writing this column, even though I threatened to quit last year. I have three reasons for continuing: 1.
Nobody volunteered to take over.
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Kendra Cook and David Thiele wrote four of the six columns last year, giving me a break.
I was shocked by the number of people who read this column and enjoy it. I feel that being editor of this column is more important than any technical paper I ever wrote, or other volunteer activity that I have done for the IEEE AP-S.
So, for the foreseeable future, I will remain your humble ethics columnist! The final installment of "Should my daughter become an engineer?" will be published soon. ~~)
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